Getting My Ex Back

 Getting My Ex Back

Getting my ex back may be the one thought that seems to keep going around in your head.  You may feel discouraged and think that there is no chance that the two of you can get back together.  Don't give up. It doesn't matter if it seems hopeless, you'll have nothing to lose, and possibly everything to gain. 

If you are serious, here are some things that may be able to help you.  It's way too easy for people to make mistakes when they are hurting and desperate to get their ex back, so it's very important that you have a 'plan of attack'. 

Don't think this means that you are going to be sneaky or have some underhanded method, it just means that if you give the process a little thought you can avoid the mistakes and have a better shot at making things work. 

The first thing you need to do is to figure out what you need to change about you.  Don't worry about what your ex did wrong, you can't make them change, for now only concentrate on you.  Figure out what you did wrong, where you can improve and what changes you should make to be a better person and a better partner for your ex. 

Once you've identified where you can make changes and improve yourself, then it's time to talk to your ex.  You really shouldn't have much contact with them until you've reached this point.  There is no point in asking them to get back together unless you show them that you've really changed and that those changes will have a positive impact on your relationship.  

In other words, before you talk to your ex about getting back together, show them that this time you can make it work because of the changes you've made.  Give them a reason to want to try again.  By the time you've broken up you've probably had a lot of fights, and your ex will probably be reluctant to try again and have to deal with that, but if you can show them that you've changed they may think it's worth a second try. 

Hopefully, they'll say yes, they still love you and they want to try. If they do, just get together and have some fun. Don't try to fix everything on this 'first date'.  Just reconnect and remind yourselves what you loved about each other. 

If, on the other hand, they say they're not interested it's very important that you walk away.  You should simply tell them that you understand and that you hope they find happiness.  Do not get mad and make threats.  Just move on. 

It's easy to get practically obsessive about 'getting my ex back' but before you get too carried away just remember that if you want to reconcile with your ex, you will need to make changes otherwise the two of you will continue to be miserable even if you do get back together.  Don't repeat the mistakes of the past, take this time to grow.